I liked this guy. He asked me out. I said yes. We dated for about a day, but then it just felt weird because I didn't know him that well. So I told him that we should just be friends. I didn't really care about him until he got a new girlfriend. Then I wanted to see him again. Do I just want what I can't have? Should I try to talk to him or meet him somewhere? Or is that too weird for him?
Reply from Tena: He was moving to fast. I'm not saying your wrong or anything, but you should've told him "we nee to get to know each other" before you said yes. You were just confused at the moment. And for the other girl he talks to now, I guess you were moving to slow for him, but its alright girlie. You need to find someone who is willing to take it slow like you are. You'll find the right 1 1 day, you just have to be patient and wait. :D
Hey Tena. Where do you live?
Reply from Tena: I live in Marked Tree, Arkansas
Hi Tena! Thanks for you advice. Actually for the first time in a while I talked to this guy again. We were just hanging out. Me and my friends. He is a really funny guy and I really didnt want to completely cut contact off with him. He is still dating that girl, but I am glad that we are still friends. I mean, I would date him again if he asked me but for NOW I think we can just hang out like nothing ackward never happened. Thanks again.
Reply from Tena: I'm glad my advice helped and i'm glad you guys are friends now. But I have some more advice for you. When you guys are hanging out, most people will talk and say that you guys are dating and it will most likely get back to the girlfriend. So when you guys are around each other in public, be sure you tell your friends that you are just friends lol. Because most people like to Gossip, and the results in that can lead to a broken friendship and/or arguements with his current GF. But yes, I am glad you two are friends..KEEP IT UP!! :P
Yeah. I don't know his gf either so that could cause problems. I will be shure to make hints that we are not dating. I would never do anything to interfere with his relationship with his gf but i just want everyone else to know that too. Actually he came to my friends house again yesterday. We were all hanging out again. I dont think that we will ever hang out this much again. I mean twice in one weekend. But i hope we can always talk to eachother just on myspace or on the phone. And really tena ur advice did help. I m glad that u r here.
Reply from Tena: Thats good and i'm glad i'm here to help too!! Twice in 1 week?? Wow yall guys are really becoming close friends..Thats good!! Umm something else, This is what I would do: get the gf, sit her down, and tell her the situation thats going on. Be like "Me and your boyfriend have been hanging out and everything, but we are not talking. I just had to let you know just incase someone sees him and it comes back to you." and what you told me earlier, be like "I'm not the type to ruin a relationship so I just had to tell you that". Thats just something I would do. I'm not pressuring you to say it, i'm just recommending!! :D
I have an ex bf. He left me. I told him not to but he did. He is with one of my friends now. She let this whole thing that is gonna last about a week ruin our relationship forever. I still like this guy and he likes me but I am still mad at him for doing what he did. And I would definetly go out with him again but I do know if I should after this. But he is still stuck in a relationship ... It is not gonna last much longer though. She already told me that if her ex came back she would dump him. What should I do? This is way too complicated!
Reply from Tena: Wow!! umm 1 second please. Thats even more complicated for me!! lol. Umm first off are you sure your wanna get back with him after he did that? I mean its all good and everything, but this thing I call "Trust" is not happening right now. He is playing you. If he still likes you and he is talking to another girl then he is playing with your emotions and thats a bad thing :(... You shouldn't let a guy confuse you like this it is not healthy, but I understand your issue cause you probably feel like "Aw man I don't know what im gonna do without him". We all been there before, believe me, its not good. My advice is to look around, date a couple of guys. He's talking to other girls what makes you think that you can't talk to other boys??. Im not saying to just automatically "delete" him out of your life, just put him on hold until he comes to his senses and realizes what he did was the dumbest thing he's ever done!! *HUGS*
Thanks Tena. This has helped but he already said what he did was dumb. But he isn't doing anything about it. I will date other guys when I get the chance but for now I should just shut him out. This is too much for me. He hurt me and now he is sayin stuff that he will never do anything about. Should I tell my friend so that she doesn't get played too? But you know she is one of those girls who would probly cheat on him? what do you think?
Reply from Tena: All I have to say is, If them 2 are gonna cheat on each other then why ar they together in the first place?? That was a waste of both of their times and it really hurt. So if you he isn't the kind of guy that can be "faithful" then he isn't right for you!!
Is it crazy to be waiting all day for a guy to call you?
Reply from Tena: YES YES YES!! It is crazy :P.. You shouldn't be wasting your time waiting on the phone to ring its unhealthy. Concentrate on more important things such as School. You don't want to seem all clingy!!
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